This post might be rather ironic because there is a sad part to it, but I promise it ties into being positive and happy with life. Life isn’t easy. We all know it. Everyone has lived difficult times and everyone has heard someone else say, “Life isn’t easy, but it’s worth it.” Despite dealing with lots of problems and unfortunate circumstances, lovely circumstances do surface and situations improve. My high school Criminal Justice teacher always told me that problems didn’t go away, they just changed. I didn’t understand what he meant when he said that to me in tenth grade. I was fifteen then, but now I’m almost twenty and I completely understand what he was saying.
I have realized that in the past year or so I can’t wait for certain days to come in hopes that some situation will improve or I’ll get rid of an issue. I get excited for some peace of mind, but the moment comes and I’m already worried about something else. I do want to pat myself on the back though because I have significantly improved my life by removing loads of unnecessary negativity. (“You have to celebrate yourself”, is on of the lessons I’ve learned.) I have cut ties or separated myself from people that just didn’t seem to care whether they were part of my life or not. I have ignored rude comments about many of my decisions. I have stood my ground or walked away from certain situations that I felt weren’t worth my time. I HAVE STOPPED WORRYING ABOUT EVERYONE AROUND ME AND REALIZED THAT I CANNOT SOLVE EVERYONE’S PROBLEMS.
One of the perks of having “older than normal” parents is the quality advice I receive from them directly and indirectly. Their friends also offer great tips. One of my dad’s closest friends told me, “Don’t worry about other people and their problems too much. You will realize that you won’t even have time for other’s problems because you have many yourself.” It sounds a little selfish, but think about it. If I sat here and tried to solve every problem every friend/family member has told me they had, I would not be writing this blog post or attending Marlin’s games on Monday nights. “Not my circus, not my monkeys.”
It does feel great helping people out. I am all for that, but it’s important that you don’t set yourself on fire to keep other people warm. Sometimes the best way you can help a friend/family member with many problems is by simply listening. Many a times, people don’t even want advice! They just want to let out all the emotions…which leads me to my point.
Tonight Roly and I attended a Marlins game. While at the game, I received news that Robin Williams had passed away due to suicide. He was battling with depression. Depression is not a joke. Depression is a legitimate disease that people battle every single day. If there’s anything we can learn from Robin William’s death is how destructive depression can be. It is unfortunate that so many souls cannot find peace and comfort anywhere, thus leading them to take their own lives. It’s important to listen to people.
I know, from personal experience, that when I am feeling severely overwhelmed I just want someone to listen. Letting my emotions out allows me to clear my thoughts and move on to solve my problem. Whether someone is depressed, struggles with PTSD, or is having a rough day it’s good to know they have a listener. God knows I am blessed to love a great listener. My parents are also excellent listeners. My best listener are God and my notebooks. Sometimes I don’t think it’s fair to “dump” my emotions all over someone…so I just grab my pen and let the ink do all the work. If you don’t have a listener (or you think you don’t) find a healthy escape. Some people workout and some people write. There’s always a way out of a problem, but there’s no going back when you’re dead. Suicide is a PERMANENT solution to a temporary problem. Realize the permanence of death.
My lesson for you today is…listen. You’ll learn a lot and you will help a friend/family member more than you can imagine. Venting is healthy. Having someone that listens is a blessing. Be a blessing.
RIP Robin Williams.
RIP all the victims of suicide.
Prayers to all those battling depression.
Remember that you always have your friend the semicolon;.
God Bless & Be Happy!